Daddy, Are YOU Okay?
A father’s road back to himself, his child, and the home he wants to build.
Everybody asks whether the bills are paid, whether you’re working, whether you’re showing up. Nobody stops long enough to ask what fatherhood is doing inside of you. This book isn’t another performance to keep up with. It’s a safe place to tell the truth — and a new way to start practicing something different.
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Why I wrote this book, what it helped me see about my own fatherhood, and how to know if it's for you.
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Three ways in. One work.
Every bundle starts instantly. Physical copies ship within 5–7 business days. Shipping & handling is added at checkout on the Hero ($9.99) and Identity ($12.99) bundles. The first 250 physical copies are signed by Spence and come with a personal thank-you note.
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Everything you need to do the work — in your hands and on your phone.
The complete experience. Hardcover book and spiral field journal in your hands, plus two bonus courses.
Somebody finally asked.
Nobody had asked me that in years. I read chapter seven in my truck and finally made the appointment I'd been putting off since my son was born.
My husband sat in the driveway every night. After this book he started telling me, 'I need ten minutes.' Now when he walks in, he's actually home.
I thought being tough was being strong. My daughter told me last week I'm easier to talk to. That one sentence was worth the whole book.
I bought it for my brother after his divorce. He called me at midnight and said, 'Somebody finally asked.' He's in a men's group now.
Daddy, Are YOU Okay? is for the father who is working, providing, trying — and still wondering why he feels so overwhelmed. The one who has been strong for everybody else and hasn’t heard anybody ask how he’s doing. Being responsible doesn’t mean you’re okay. And being overwhelmed doesn’t mean you’re weak.
Across four movements, Spence helps you name what you’ve actually been carrying, separate real strength from self-abandonment, re-father the wounded parts of yourself instead of asking your child to repair them, and build a rhythm of presence, partnership and brotherhood your family can feel. Every chapter ends with one brick — collected in the Field Journal at the back. Not a transformation. A stack.
Thirteen chapters. No filler.
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Before you start.
When do I get access?+
Immediately. Your eBook and audiobook unlock in your Kajabi library the moment you check out. The Hero and Identity bundles also unlock the digital workbook.
What is the difference between the Hero and Identity bundles?+
The Hero bundle includes one physical book: the softcover edition. The Identity bundle includes two physical books: the premium hardcover edition and a spiral field journal, both mailed to your door, plus two bonus digital courses. Both bundles include the eBook, audiobook and digital workbook.
How long does the physical book take to arrive?+
Physical copies are printed and shipped by Lulu and typically arrive within 5–7 business days.
Where do I listen to the audiobook?+
Inside your Kajabi library, chapter by chapter, right next to the book. The audiobook is in production now, and chapters are added to your library as they’re finished. You don’t need to do anything; each new chapter shows up in your course automatically.
Do I need the book to use the workbook?+
The workbook follows the book chapter by chapter — the Real Talk Reflections become exercises you can actually do. The Hero bundle pairs the softcover book with the digital workbook. The Identity bundle pairs the hardcover book with a printed spiral field journal, and includes the digital workbook too.
Can I buy it for someone else?+
Yes. Many readers buy it for a husband, son, brother or friend. Enter their shipping address at checkout for the physical copy.
What is your refund policy?+
Physical books and field journals are printed to order, so they are final sale and yours to keep. Refunds cover the digital portion of your bundle, within 30 days of purchase. Digital bundle: full refund. Hero bundle: $27 refund for the digital portion, and you keep the softcover book. Identity bundle: $40 refund, which covers the $27 digital portion and the two bonus digital courses, and you keep the hardcover book and the spiral field journal. If a physical copy arrives damaged or misprinted, contact us within 14 days for a free replacement.
Is this only for new dads?+
No. It starts before the baby arrives, but it’s written for every father — new or seasoned, married, single or co-parenting — who has been strong for everybody else and hasn’t been asked how he’s doing.
Is this a replacement for therapy?+
No. This book is honest encouragement and a practical path — not clinical treatment. Chapter seven is about getting real help, and Spence will tell you to go get it. If you're in crisis or thinking about harming yourself, call or text 988 (U.S.) or your local emergency number.
From Hustle to Home. This is Fatherhood, Rebuilt.
